We live in a society where failure is seen as weakness, and anything less than perfect is seen as a failure
The first time I heard the term “perfectionism” was when I was 16. My teacher referred to it as a potential answer to the job interview question: “What is your biggest weakness?” Little did she realize that it was the truth for many students in the class who had spent the last 12 years in a school that served detentions for crossing things out or using an ink eraser in their school books.
From the age of seven, I was indoctrinated to believe that perfection was the only standard and that anything less was not only disgraceful but deserving of…
Don’t let the social pressures of the holiday leave you bankrupted for 2021
Gifts, decorations, cards, holiday food, wrapping and snacks — even in the most difficult of times, some traditions never change — but in many cases, income does.
Regardless of what year we’re in or what circumstances we’re facing, Christmas is a financially stressful holiday, and it will be more so this year than ever, and you can’t blame people.
After experiencing what has been the most confusing, unpredictable and economically uncertain year in modern history, people worldwide are facing a holiday season away from their families with…
Scams, overspending and environmentalism, oh my.
Despite the financial hellhole that 2020 has been, Black Friday is the tradition that doesn’t want to quit, and it’s coming full-force this year. All of us are currently being bombarded with unabashed sales marketing for 15%, 40% or up to 60% sales from companies that most of us are pretty certain we unsubscribed from the email lists of a long time ago.
As a no-buy connoisseur with an appetite for a bargain, I’m not against a good deal. …
and it’s not worth the cost
Last year I decided to quit most of my social media accounts. I left Instagram, Facebook and deleted Twitter entirely.
I lasted nine months before I started missing bookstagram accounts, so I decided to make a new Instagram dedicated solely to writing and book discussions. I never returned to Twitter or Facebook.
When I returned to Instagram, it was tempting to check up on people. Like many, curiosity got the better of me. After a few days back on Instagram, I searched for the accounts of old acquaintances or influencers I used to follow.
I remember how I used to…
Because, believe it or not, parenting isn’t for everyone, and some of us prefer dogs.
When I was eight, all my friends had Baby Born dolls. Getting fancy prams and cute, trendy, seasonal outfits gave you access to a whole new world of group pram strolls in the park, sleepovers and small garden parties, and I wanted in.
I asked for both a Baby Born and Baby Annabelle for Christmas, and by January, I was part of the pack. It didn’t get serious until one of the girls at a slumber party asked me what I wanted to call my…
None of us imagined ourselves as growing up to be uninspired, unmotivated adults. But just because the world was harder than you imagined it would be doesn’t mean your potential is any less.
There are a lot of misconceptions in life about the importance of work and identity. Due to the nature of being a capitalist society, what one does for a living becomes a significant social marker against which others judge us.
What we do for a living gives a shallow and inaccurate indicator of our intelligence, academic background, income, social class, interests and potential.
Because of that, it’s…
I was at a Black Lives Matter protest in Edinburgh when the statue of slave trader Edward Colston was pulled down by protestors in Bristol. It was relieving to hear Mayor Marvin Rees say he felt no “sense of loss” when BLM demonstrators threw the controversial statue into the harbour. It was about time someone official acknowledged how vile our cultural celebration of racists is.
The Brits think racism is “just in America”. Spoiler alert: just because we have fewer police shootings of black people doesn’t mean racism doesn’t exist in the UK. We’ve spent hundreds of years reaping the…
Feeling Depressed Isn’t The Same As Having Depression
It’s very easy to feel ashamed of having depression in a world of self-help and personal development.
Most people in the personal development world managed to overcome their depression and anxiety by pulling themselves together, getting over the victim mentality and getting on with life thanks to a series of rituals, daily habits and objectives.
All of this is likely true. It’s possible to manage your thoughts and pull yourself out of a rut because, well, technically it’s the only way you can overcome a lot of mental health issues. …
Three weeks ago, I had a gas leak. Thankfully, it wasn’t anything serious — It was a small leak coming from a gas ring on my stove. Had I not had as sensitive a nose as I do, it probably would have gone unnoticed. My CO2 alarm didn’t pick it up, nor did my partner. I was nearly too frightened to call a gas man for fear of wasting an emergency service’s time.
Thankfully, I didn’t waste their time at all. I’ve never been more relieved and validated than being told there was a minor gas leak.
However, this news…
When I joined university nine years ago, I was so excited about my future. Like many people out there, university was what I’d worked my whole towards; it was the only reason I’d slaved away at my homework and extracurricular activities since the age of ten.
In my mind, University was where I would truly find myself; where I would fall in love, make lifelong friends, discover my career prospects and transition from sheltered-child to respectable and valuable adult.
Except I didn’t meet anyone romantically (in fact, I barely met anyone), I graduated with zero career guidance or prospects and…
Cinzia DuBois
Writer | Author | Creator of The Personal Philosophy Project on YouTube
